JULY GUY

With older age a common idea is "set-up dates". I get lots of people who will ask if I want to be set up with their friends or someone they know. Half the time...Well practically 98% of the time it never happens. My first thought is, how well do you know them and second do they really want to be set up and not forced to be set up? Many times they tell me about the guy and he seems great and I get all excited to meet him and go out but when it comes down to it, it doesn't happen. I again question in my mind why it didn't go through.

In June while traveling from Washington back to Utah with Adam and Kym, we stopped at an old college buddy of Adam's to talk to him and his wife. I spent most of the time either talking to this friends wife or listening to them talk about their good old college days. To this day I don't know what I said or did, but it must have made an impression which I didn't think was all that possible in such a short time. But anyways a few days later I got a call from Kym. Adam's friend wanted to set me up with his really good friend who lives in Springville and wanted to know if I would go out with him. Blind is hard but going by the fact that this guy was a really cool person I said yes. He did call weeks later on a Sunday in July. We talked on the phone for a half hour or so and had a great conversation. It was decided that with both of our busy schedules we would go out on Tuesday and he would drive to Salt Lake. I didn't know what to expect and I hoped that he had a plan of where we were going, cause I hate having to make that decision!

He called before he was supposed to be there to tell me that he would be a bit late, which I like so he was already on my good graces. He showed up and he wasn't anything of what I was expecting. What did I think I was going to expect for heavens sake it was a blind date! He had already decided where we were going and asked if it was OK with me. Triple good graces with having it planned and then asking my opinion.

He already had a jump start from the beginning. He was great guy material. My problem...was that I was thinking of "Spring/Summer Guy"! Why?...well "July Guy" asked me out a week before I asked "Spring/Summer Guy" out and was turned down. If only I could have seen the future. I felt that we had a good time but if I hadn't been so infatuated with "Spring/Summer Guy" I may have put more effort forward and given him more signs.

We talked non-stop at dinner and then walked around the Gateway. He was tall and dark with broad shoulders, so I felt very small and extremely short next to him. We drove back to my place and he walked me to my door. I didn't know what to do so the scene was less than perfect and not how I would have had it turn out. We exchanged our last names and in my head thought "if I were to marry him my name would be Amy Lyn Lynn! Crazy...good thing for maiden names as middle initials. He asked if he could call me the next week to go out and since it had gone so well I said yes.

Well 8 weeks later and finally fed up with "Spring/Summer Guy" It never dawned on me that "July Guy" hadn't called me and that so much time had passed. Why then did I think about it 8 weeks later? Well I got a message that he wanted to ask me out again but was worried that too much time had passed to be able to ask me out again. He had called his friend, who had called Adam who then asked Kym if she would ask me. My initial reaction was no. After taking out my petty reasons of why not to go out with him, it all came down to the fact that he was a really great guy and that I should give him another chance. I told Kym who told Adam who was supposed to call his friend to give "July Guy" the message. 2 weeks later "July Guy" still hadn't been told that I would go out with him. So I did what any stupid girl would do and took matters into my own hands and called "July Guy". Ya thought it was a good idea in the moment but after getting his voice mail and leaving what I thought was a casual message on September 21st, must not have been cause it's been 4 months and he's never returned my call.

Are you kidding me!%@# After everything and putting myself out there again and no response?! All I can say is I guess he just wasn't that into me!

Lesson I Learned: I don't know cause I'm still confused as to why he why he asked if I would go out with him again, and then to get no response.

Lesson I learned: Never get excited about any guy unless he has made huge efforts to be with me!