MONDAY GUY

A couple of Monday's ago I went with a couple of girls in my ward to an FHE for ages 30-40. I know what your thinking...will there really only be people there between 30-40? We'll the girls were, and well...maybe half the guys. Here's my question? Why is it that most of the time when I go to these activities, that the ones either hitting on me or just talking to me end up being the ones who don't fit in the advertised age range? I feel awkward, and get defensive and shut down!!! Like I have to protect myself in some way. Is that the way I should feel when going to a function with other church members? Maybe I'm reading into it too much and should just relax. But when I get that gut feeling (my still small voice?) it takes over all reasoning and I react as I do. When I did online dating, the only guys interested in me were the guys 45 and older and that was when I was 10 years younger than I am now. I'm seeing a pattern, not the pattern I expected for my life, but a pattern. Where are the guys closer to my age? Are they all married? Hiding from Me?

So while at this activity I actually found a guy around 36 and we were talking. In the midst of this conversation this guy who we will name "Monday Guy" who from my guessing is in his later 40's and not my type managed to get my attention for probably 2 minutes and to be honest I don't remember what we even talked about. So when I was ready to get out of there and had ended my conversation with 36 year old guy "Monday Guy" ended up sitting next to me on the couch and telling me that he liked my hair and that no one else would be able to pull it off but me. I was actually having a bad hair day and it was curly and poofy! Monday Guy went on about my HAIR for about 5 minutes, it's hair man, move on! I honestly don't think I was all that nice to him cause I didn't want "Monday Guy" to think I was at all interested and have another stalker on my hands. In the end "Monday Guy" asked to be my friend on facebook and I think I said whatever and later wished I had said No.

Poor "Monday Guy" a little too desperate for me and some very obvious reasons why he is still single. Monday Guy went home immediately and added me as a friend on facebook. For about a week I couldn't decide if I should be his friend and hit the confirm button, and inturn not hurt his feelings, or take charge and hit the ignore button and not worry about hurting his feelings. I ended up hitting the ignore button and I'm sure at some point I will run into "Monday Guy" and I will have to come up with a reason why I didn't add him and why I still won't add him. But for now I'm not worrying about it.

Lesson I learned is like the lesson I learned about giving out my phone number. If I don't want them as a friend on facebook I can say no since it's my choice and my agency.

Second Lesson I learned is I better come up with my reasons why I don't just give out my phone number and full name to just anybody before I'm asked again!