HERE IT IS

Thanks Melissa for nudge to get this done.

So...
I started out the week of Memorial a bit nervous and excited
to finally meet Georgia boy...which is what we will call
him. We exchanged phone numbers on Tuesday and
I thought he would call before he left to make plans.
But I did not hear from him til I was driving to work
Friday morning when he texted me rather than call me.

He had missed his flight the night before and was still trying
to get to Utah for the weekend. We decided that we would
make plans once he knew he had a flight and was traveling
towards Utah. Twenty minutes later he was booked and
headed for Utah. He wanted to meet for dinner shortly
after arriving in Utah and was going to call me when he
landed to finalize where and when to meet. He called and
we made plans to go to the Red Butte Cafe on
Foothill at 7:30.

Something that I have learned about myself in the last 3
months is that I don't like being the first one to the restaurant
when meeting a guy for the first time. So I made sure that
when I left it wasn't too early but that I wouldn't be late. He
called me when I was driving there to tell me that he was
already there and to let me know when I got there and he
would meet me at the door. It was refreshing to know that
he would be there before me!

He was waiting outside the door and hugged me first thing.
He told me I was exactly what he had expected. So far so
good. He had picked a spot on the deck, but it got very
cold so we ended up moving inside. We spent the next 2
hours or so talking, eating and getting to know each other.
From how I felt and how I thought things had gone I felt like
we had hit it off. It wasn't a feeling of he is the one or
anything, but it was a good feeling.

He walked me to my car and as we walked I asked what his
plans were for the rest of the weekend?? I asked so that I
could see if I was in those plans. But alas I wasn't...He was
spending the rest of the weekend with family and friends...
I didn't know quite what to say at that point, especially since
he had been so anxious to meet me but only willing to spend
2 hours to get to know me while he was here. His last words
to me were lets keep in touch and then he was gone.

I drove away, very confused and I not sure where we
would go at this point.

I ended up texting him when I got home to say I had a great
time and if he had time to see me before he left? He said he
had a great time as well and would possibly have some time
Sunday after church and would call me.

I kinda had a feeling at that point that something wasn't
right. I've learned that if someone is interested they will want
to see you, want to spend time with you and will make it happen.

Sunday came and he texted rather than called to say that he
wouldn't be able to leave his family and friends to see me.
But that when he was in town again we should get together
and do something. He is in the army for heavens sake. It
could be months or years before he comes back to into town.

The next 2 weeks we continued to connect with each other
over email and his fast response had me believing that
maybe things were fine, until one of his emails was short and
nothing like the others. So it got me thinking and stepping
back to give him space.

Now for the finale...which makes me glad that I didn't write
this post sooner because now it has a beginning and an end.

Friday June 10th
My sister Angie asked me for some ideas of places to go to
take some family pictures. I had drove for a fieldtrip a couple
of years ago to the capital and was lucky enough to look out
of Memory Grove. I thought then that it would be a great
place for pictures. So I told her about it and that's where
we decided to the take pictures. We were going to do them
on Saturday but last minute changed to Friday instead.

I left work about 4:00 and drove down and I parked way to
far away but wanted to make sure that I didn't end up with
a parking ticket for parking in the wrong place. So I walked
the blocks to Memory Grove to meet mom at their car.

I am now a firm believer of things happening for a purpose.
Every decision I made and everything I did, from the time I
left work had a purpose was meant to be!!!!!!!

After walking the 4 1/2 blocks with all of my stuff...because
I didn't want to leave it in the car and have someone break
in...I got to mom and dad's car tired and ready to just sit for
a bit. Dad called and told us that there were some
benches and tables in some shade that we could go to sit.
There was no question in my mind that we were going
to stay in the car on the comfy seats and maybe make
our way to the benches in awhile. Mom was reading a book
and I pulled out my computer to play a little Bejeweled.

While sitting there, maybe 10 minutes later I saw a boy run
by the car on a wall that separates the sidewalk and a small
stream, and heard a man call his name. The guy came into
view and then stood on this little wall facing the car. I
looked up and my heart went into my stomach, and my heart
started racing.

I said to mom "that's Georgia boy!" She was like what?!?
I knew it was him but for a second was unsure. Since I only
saw him for a couple of hours in person. So when he walked
near the car I called his name out the window. It was
definitely close enough for him to hear...I called his name a
couple of times and got no response from him what so ever!
It made me wonder if it really was him, or if it was, was his
name his real name?!?

As this was happening I knew it was all happening with
the help of God. It was so surreal.

I noticed that he holding his phone so I decided to text him.
I texted him saying "I think I see your twin here in Salt
Lake". We did this while watching him the whole time from
the tinted windows. When he got it and read it he started
looking around. He instantly texted back "where are you?"
"Memory Grove" he wrote back "Lol, it's me".

At this point I got out of the car. He was with a woman, the
boy and a dog. He hugged me but said very little to me,
wouldn't meet mom, and got into the car that was parked
right behind mom and dads and left. What are the chances
of running into him in such a large city, and to have parked
right next to him. Seriously ?!?

He texted me a couple hours later saying how great it was
running into me earlier, and that he got lonely so he came
back to Utah for the weekend. I told him it confused me
seeing him earlier. He couldn't understand why so we
talked on the phone and when it ended I was still not clear
so we ended up talking again.

Basically he wasn't feeling it, but didn't want to be mean to
me by telling me right after meeting me. So I proceeded to
tell him that there was a difference between being mean
and being honest.

He didn't want a long distance relationship (he's the one
who lives in Georgia and found me, in Utah), and didn't know
when he would be back to Utah with being in the army.
I told him that no matter how much he liked getting my
letters that I was no longer going to write him or keep in
contact with him.

I told him that I had been on the dating site to date and
possibly find a husband. From his response, he was obviously
on the site for a very different reason. I almost wanted to say
to him, "You shouldn't be on a dating site if you are just
wanting someone to write to you for company!."

He said he had not lied to me about living in Georgia but
had some time off so he came back the day before to visit for
the weekend. The woman was supposedly a friend and her
son, who was late for a soccer practice, and why he couldn't
stay to talk very long, or to meet mom.

He apologized for many things and from this experience
will do things differently the next time.

So there you have it, in a very very very long email.

Thank goodness for blessings answered,
and the lessons learned!